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10 Essential Tips for Launching your New Business Successfully

Hi everyone, and welcome to my blog. I can’t believe I’m into my fifth year of “writing”, and I’m over the moon with the readership numbers and all your wonderful comments.

This month, we’re talking business tips. If you’re thinking about starting your own business, or are already in the early stages, you’re about to embark on a wild ride where your coffee budget will rival your marketing spend, and your to-do list will grow faster than a viral cat video. But fear not—whether you’re launching the next tech startup or just trying to sell toothpicks, this blog is for you, with tips to help you dodge mistakes and maybe, just maybe, keep your sanity intact.

My qualifications to write this stem from my extensive background in technology sales, marketing, and sales management, where I’ve helped notable tech firms and startups thrive by developing effective sales strategies, including collaborations with a company recognised as the fastest-growing tech firm in the UK, all leading to increased revenues and profits.

More recently, Jamie and I established our own successful business, from which we have now retired. Working with some of the world’s largest software companies afforded us a lifestyle we enjoyed, and more importantly, allowed us to keep adding to our pensions. We built our business from the ground up, and I’d like to share ten key insights that contributed to our success.

It’s wise to keep initial expenses low while establishing your business. This is truly the best piece of advice I can give. We started with just two basic laptops, a couple of second-hand desks and chairs, a cloud-based database subscription, a Microsoft Exchange subscription, and our website hosting. That was all we needed at the outset. Once we began generating income, we reinvested it in the business. For example, we delayed leasing office space for a full year until we had sufficient funds, ensuring we could comfortably meet the lease’s requirements.
Attend a business start-up exhibition. We gained valuable insights from excellent speakers, which enabled us to create our website content and brand without hiring a costly marketing firm. Once we were making money, we reinvested our profits into a design company to enhance our initial work.
Prepare a detailed business plan and consider who your business plan is for. It may be aimed at potential investors, attracting business partners or simply for personal reference in developing your business. Ours was for personal use; we decided right at the start that we didn’t want to raise investment; we were building a lifestyle business without the pressure of outside influence. You can use online templates to guide you through the business planning process.
Understand your target market. Market segmentation is essential; it is imperative to identify your audience. We operated in a B2B (business-to-business) model, targeting technology firms with fewer than 500 employees. If your business is B2C and you’re offering guided walks, your market segmentation could include travel companies.
Marketing is essential. Consider how you will let your target market know what you are selling. Your solution must address a need, and you should be able to clearly define it. See point 8.
Invest in a database. Most databases are cloud-based, so you can access your information anytime. They are sold on a subscription basis; we chose Salesforce.com. It’s essential to be able to track the results of your marketing efforts. Information is key
Networking. I assume you possess a certain level of understanding regarding your business. For instance, if you have a background as a sports person and are establishing a coaching enterprise, you’re likely to have an extensive network of acquaintances. It is essential to inform these individuals about your business. When you reach people, you make money. Your ability to start conversations & attract people is crucial. To begin with, random conversations might have no outcome, but I can assure you the more you network the more successful you will be.
Keep it simple. You must articulate your business in two sentences and write a mission statement. It’s incredibly dull when someone takes 30 minutes to tell you what they do. This needs to be replicated on your website. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve read a website and still have no idea what they are selling.
Work hard. Whilst our business was a lifestyle business, we mostly worked from 8am until 6pm, 5 days a week. Now, you might say that’s not the lifestyle for me, but it enabled us to travel 3 or 4 times a year. We could sit on a beach in Jamaica and still work, which suited us just fine
Hire an accountant and do things properly. Your accountant will help with the company setup. He will also ensure your annual accounts are in order and that the Inland Revenue is paid on time. Unless you understand contracts, don’t sign anything without taking advice. For example, as a small company based in the UK, we would never sign an agreement based on another country’s legal system.

And there you have it, folks—your roadmap to launching a business that’s destined for greatness. Go forth and chase that entrepreneurial dream, and if anyone needs any help or advice, don’t hesitate to drop me a message.

Until next time xxxxx

The three essential skincare products for amazing skin!

Welcome to my latest blog, your ultimate guide to mastering the skincare universe! Over the years, I’ve spent far too much time researching skincare products. I’ve read numerous dermatology reports and even achieved a diploma in skincare and makeup, so this 3-minute read could save you hours!

Whether you’re a skincare novice or a seasoned pro, I’ll cut through the noise and explain the only skincare products that will make a difference. Let’s face it: skincare should be fun, not frustrating! And, for all you men, lines and wrinkles aren’t gender specific. Wouldn’t you like a pass to the fountain of youth, too? It’s less work than perfecting your fantasy football lineup, and your mates will be jealous of your glowing skin 😊

I won’t state the obvious about proper cleansing and sufficient sunscreen; I’ll get straight to the point with my No. 1 favourite product that has made the most difference to my skin: Retinol.

Retinol, a derivative of vitamin A, provides significant benefits for the skin, such as enhancing skin cell turnover, boosting collagen production, exfoliating, and unclogging pores. It has massively improved my skin texture issues, including my “not so” fine lines, wrinkles, uneven skin tone, and pigmentation. After all those years of slapping on cooking oil and baking in the sun, yes, I was an 80s suntan specialist.

This miracle product speeds up the natural process of shedding dead skin cells and replacing them with new ones, resulting in smoother, brighter, and more radiant skin. Retinol also helps the skin produce more collagen, a protein that provides structure and elasticity that we lose as we age. I don’t suffer from spot breakouts much these days, but if you do, Retinol will also help unclog pores and prevent future breakouts.

But! A quick heads-up if you’re diving into retinol for the first time — it’s super important to take it slow. I use it twice a week, and my skin loves it, but it takes time. I’d suggest starting with a concentration of 0.3% or lower; it’s gentle enough for most people. When I first read about Retinol, I went straight out, bought 1% concentrate, and my face virtually peeled off after two days. Going overboard will lead to some annoying redness and dryness. Take time to let your skin adjust to it and gradually increase the frequency of use. Your skin will thank you later!

Beyond retinol, my other two go-to products are Vitamin C and Hyaluronic Acid.

Vitamin C is a powerful antioxidant, and whilst there is an overlap with Retinol, they do address different concerns. Vitamin C brightens the skin, reduces hyperpigmentation, and protects against environmental damage. Retinol is primarily known for its anti-ageing properties, stimulating collagen production, reducing wrinkles, and improving skin texture.

Hyaluronic Acid is a humectant that draws moisture into the skin, plumping and hydrating it. It attracts and retains water, keeping my skin hydrated. It can hold over 1,000 times its weight in water, effectively plumping and softening the skin, making a significant difference. I use all these products at night, alternating between the three.

So, how long will it take to notice a difference? By incorporating these three ingredients, you will see a visible improvement in your skin. Within 2 to 6 weeks, subtle improvements will become evident, and significant enhancements will be noticeable after 2 to 4 months of consistent use.

I should probably mention the cost before I sign off. Being a relatively low-budget person, I tend to opt for products from The Ordinary and No 7, which are just as effective as the pricier brands and have the same ingredients without the need to take out a mortgage to buy them.

As you embark on your skincare journey, products like retinol can be game changers. By understanding your skin’s needs and incorporating these potent ingredients with care, you are not merely investing in a routine but embracing a path to radiant, healthy skin. Your skin deserves this moment to shine, just like you.

Before I leave, I want to say a word about my AS, as I write my blog to raise awareness of autoimmune disease. Those who follow me on social media will know that I was at Wembley last week, as my football team was vying for promotion. We won, and I had a brilliant day that started early, finished late, and included lots of alcohol. My reason for sharing this was my recovery! My body has only just begun to improve. Living with an autoimmune disease requires careful management, and a blowout often causes a flare-up. I don’t regret it, but it served as a gentle reminder not to party too hard this summer 😊

“I regret investing in my skincare products”, said no one ever!

Until next time xxxxxxxx

65% of new ventures fail, don’t let it be yours!

Too many new ventures fail, but why, and what can you do to ensure yours is not among them?

But first, why am I qualified to advise you on this subject?

Selling and marketing are in my DNA. My career involved selling multi-million-dollar software projects to the world’s largest banks, later managing a sales team that exceeded targets of 100 million. Finally, alongside my husband, I founded a successful business we operated for 14 years. I’ve served on a company board, contributed to the initial vision, executed sales plans, and advised numerous start-ups on their sales and marketing strategies. I am now a paid travel writer and photographer working ad hoc freelance.

OK, that was more than two lines, but you get my gist.

Now, the nitty gritty.

The first mistake many new ventures make is overlooking the critical step of deeply understanding their target audience. You must know who will benefit from buying your product or service, watching your vlog, reading your blog or listening to your podcast. They should not be in your target market if they do not benefit.

If you don’t get your market segmentation right, you risk ineffective marketing, misaligned pricing, or offerings that entirely miss the mark. For example, I write two blogs: a travel blog and a lifestyle blog. Both have completely different target audiences, and I market them separately. When Jamie and I started our business, we targeted the computer software sector but still had to segment further. We knew our “offering” had a better chance with mid-sized companies with over 50 employees but fewer than 500. Unless you are Amazon, you will not sell to the world. Getting your target market right is difficult but vital for success.

The second mistake is failing to define the value of your offering to your target audience, which can doom even the most innovative efforts. It’s not about you; it’s about providing a service, a product, or information that will improve someone’s life or save them money. It’s as simple as that.

Potential customers are left confused or indifferent without clearly articulating how your product solves their specific problems, meets their needs, or enhances their lives. This disconnect leads to weak engagement, low conversion rates, and missed opportunities, as people gravitate toward solutions with compelling, relevant value propositions. Vague or generic messaging dilutes your appeal, allowing competitors who communicate their benefits more effectively to capture the market’s attention and loyalty.

In summary, it’s important to focus on the fundamentals before investing in setup, subscriptions, a website, and other expenses associated with building a successful business. While it can be challenging to navigate the process alone, getting these foundational elements right is crucial.

Try to find a great mentor who has already experienced the many challenges of an entrepreneur. Remember, Abraham Lincoln once said, “Give me six hours to chop down a tree, and I’ll spend the first four sharpening the axe.”

Thank you for reading, hasta la vista, until next time xxxxxxx

Get Ready to Transform Your Life: The Unknown Benefits of Walking

When was the last time a walk changed your day?

Perhaps it was a sunrise stroll through a forest or an urban adventure discovering hidden street art. Maybe it was a physical and mental endurance test in the mountains, where you experienced muscle fatigue and exertion, followed by a strong sense of accomplishment after the climb. Or perhaps it was walking barefoot along a beach just as the sun set, providing a breathtaking spectacle where the sky transformed into a canvas of vibrant colours as the sun dipped below the horizon. Close your eyes and recall the sights, sounds, and emotions you felt.

OK, now for the wake-up call. Our bodies start to age at 30! You begin to lose 3% to 5% of muscle every decade. This is a significant indicator of a lower quality of life. But good news: this doesn’t have to be your reality. Happiness comes from good habits, and walking is one of the best. However, before sharing the important information, let’s briefly examine history for some perspective.

While working in London, my typical commuting day began with the 7:09 AM train to Waterloo, and I usually returned home around 7:30 PM. This was a normal day for me, although some days extended much longer. I set my alarm for 5:30 AM three times a week, which allowed me to run before my day started; it was the only exercise I could manage.

For over 30 years, I led a lifestyle of hard work, and during that time, I rarely considered taking a walk. I share this to emphasise how challenging it can be to find time, especially when you add children into the mix. It often feels impossible.

But even you guys can make walking work! You can explore how walking sparks creativity. Famous thinkers such as Steve Jobs and Virginia Woolf walked to brainstorm. Try a “problem-solving walk” where you mull over a challenge and jot down ideas afterwards. You’ll soon be hooked, and when you are, the remainder of this blog is worth a read😊

So, without further ado, here are five reasons walking is the road to health and happiness. These are not boring, predictable reasons; they go way beyond the blah, blah, blah you normally read. Of course, building muscle is a no-brainer, but for me, point 2 is the one I recall when I’m having a “can’t be bothered” moment to get me out. Which one resonates with you?

Cognitive Boost. This one’s a bit of a recap for the full-time workers. Walking can sharpen your brain. Studies suggest it enhances creativity by up to 60% compared to sitting, increasing blood flow to the brain and encouraging divergent thinking. Even a 20-minute stroll can improve memory retention and problem-solving skills. I walk before I write, I’m sure you can tell how creative I become.

Mood Regulation. No, it’s not JUST about endorphins. Walking also triggers the release of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF). When I first read about this, I needed to investigate what it meant for me. Basically, it’s a protein that acts as a “growth factor” for the brain, supporting the growth and survival of nerve cells. It’s crucial for learning, memory, and maintaining healthy brain function, helping to combat depression and anxiety and warding off nasties such as dementia as we age.
Immune Support: For those of us who struggle daily with autoimmune diseases, health studies have indicated that moderate walking (about 150 minutes a week) can decrease the frequency of colds and infections by up to 30%. It enhances natural killer cells and T cells, which combat pathogens, without the immune suppression that intense exercise can induce.
Gut Health. This is very important, so read carefully. Emerging research points to walking’s role in balancing the gut microbiome, potentially reducing inflammation linked to chronic diseases. Did you know that around 10% of the UK population is diagnosed with an autoimmune disease? This translates to a significant number of people, with women being more affected than men (13% vs. 7%). Multiple Sclerosis and Lupus are particularly challenging.
Bone Density Maintenance. After receiving my AS diagnosis, I had to stop running and avoid all impact sports. I wasn’t amused; running was my only exercise, and it made me feel good. My scans showed the damage my AS had already inflicted on my body, and I had to adjust to low-impact workouts. Unlike high-impact sports, walking is gentle yet effective for maintaining bone strength, particularly in the hips and spine. Weight-bearing activities signal bones to stay dense, which is crucial for older adults to prevent osteoporosis and other conditions that hinder mobility. Sagging glutes are not ideal.

So, there you have it. It only takes 20 to 30 minutes most days—less time than it takes you to scroll through social media—so lace up your boots and hit the pavement. Your body, mind, and that squirrel you’ll inevitably make friends with will thank you.

Finally, before I go, it’s easy to harp on about benefits, but let me share some real-life experience. Jamie and I live in Cornwall and have walked most of the 300 miles of the coastal path. We also take walking holidays and have been amazed by how these breaks make us feel.

Along the way, we’ve met many people on their own personal journeys. Some are walking from Land’s End to John O’Groats, others taking on the challenge of the Camino de Santiago. Those with limited time explore sections of the Cornish coast or take walking holidays in the Alps, Dolomites, or Pyrenees.

But here’s the thing! Every person we meet while walking has a story to tell. Some share their experiences of escaping the stresses of work, while others recount heartache, chronic illness, or their journeys through remission. Some people, like us, walk to enrich themselves in nature for pure enjoyment. Each of us has discovered the therapeutic benefits and healing that walking can offer. Regardless of where they are in their personal journeys, one thing they all have in common is that they look and feel happy and healthy.

Until next time xxxxx

The freedom of being disliked. Why universal approval isn’t the goal

Hello to all my readers! You truly excelled last month, as I achieved my highest monthly readership ever. In this blog, we’re going to discuss our obsession with being liked and how your life can change if you accept that not everyone will like you—after all, not everyone has good taste! 😊

As someone who often sought to be liked, I understand the journey towards letting go of the need for universal approval. Like me, if you can find the freedom that comes from shifting away from people-pleasing and embracing self-acceptance, it leads to greater personal peace.

Where does our need to be liked come from?

Human beings are social creatures, and our ancestors relied on social groups for survival. Being accepted and liked within a group meant access to food, shelter, and protection from predators.

While the need for physical survival may be less pressing in modern times, the desire for social acceptance and approval persists. We may equate being liked with self-worth, and the fear of rejection can be a powerful motivator for self-improvement.

Early childhood experiences, particularly relationships with parents and caregivers, can also shape our need to be liked. If a child’s needs for attention and validation were not consistently met, they might develop a stronger need for external approval.

Is social media making it worse?

In today’s world, many of us are led to believe that striving for universal likability is the norm. So yes, social media amplifies this desire through its inherent mechanisms of validation, dopamine release, and self-presentation. This creates a continuous cycle where people seek approval and compare themselves to others. This then leads to anxiety, and even a greater emphasis on external validation rather than self-worth.

How does our desire to be liked show itself?

Our desire to be liked can manifest in various ways, including prioritising social acceptance over personal needs and even altering our behaviour to fit in or gain approval. Here are some examples.

People pleasing – Prioritising others’ needs and opinions over your own, often at the expense of your well-being and boundaries.

Fear of Rejection – An intense fear of being disliked or rejected, which can lead to excessive efforts to avoid conflict or criticism

Conformity – Unconsciously adopting the behaviors, beliefs, or values of a group or individual to fit in and be accepted. As a teenager, I smoked to “fit in”, and quitting turned into a bloody nightmare.

Unrealistic Expectations – Setting unattainable standards for ourselves to meet the expectations of others, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

Difficulty Saying No – Struggling to set boundaries or refuse requests, even when it goes against your own needs or values.

How can we change?

This is the crucial part, so make sure to implement these five takeaways. If you’re committed to changing your life, you will find a way to adopt these tips; if not, you will make excuses.

Stop overthinking social interactions and shut down the “inner voice” that frets over others’ opinions. Trust your values, if someone doesn’t like them, tough shit.
Learn the power of saying “no” as it reinforces your autonomy and builds self-confidence. It will also shape a social circle that aligns with your true self, making it easier to accept that not everyone will stick around—and that’s a win. Individuals with fewer friends and more meaningful connections tend to be happier than those who seek shallow, widespread approval.
Stop seeking digital validation. When I first started writing my blog, I became overly focused on gaining likes and approval from others. After four years, I’ve realised that I no longer care about who likes my content and who doesn’t. I write because I enjoy it, and it’s become a source of income for me. If my writing helps others, that’s a welcome bonus.
Practice being unapologetically you. Celebrate the bravery of embracing your quirks, even if it turns some people off. Ruffling a few feathers is the cost of a life well-lived.
Finally, “don’t sit on the bloody fence”—it makes you boring. I make Jamie smile with my intolerance for those who don’t speak up when their opinions are needed because they’re afraid of causing conflict. In such situations, you may end up upsetting more people by remaining silent than by expressing your thoughts.

In the end, being disliked is just life’s way of sorting the wheat from the chaff—or, in my case, the cool cats from the grumpy grumps. So, I’ll keep dancing to my own offbeat tune, even if it means a few folks are booing from the sidelines 😊

See you soon xxxxxxx

Simple steps to improve EVERY day

By now, you all know I write blogs about living your best life, with an additional travel blog thrown in now and again. Over the past four years, I’ve shared my experiences, exploring and testing various strategies to improve every aspect of our lives—health, relationships, career, and personal growth. Living with a debilitating autoimmune disease has been a significant part of my journey.

I’ve tried to avoid overly fluffy inspiration. I mean, “living your best life” conjures up images of flawless yoga poses on a beach at sunrise, but let’s be real: for most of us, it’s more like juggling flaming torches on a unicycle while praying the smoke alarm doesn’t go off. Between the avalanche of self-help books, overpriced wellness gadgets, and those annoyingly perfect Instagram influencers, it’s easy to feel like you’re one kale smoothie away from cracking the code. But hopefully, my blogs take real life into account, and I include insights from my professional experience, training, and actionable tips. I hope you’ve found them to be an honest account of what has worked for me and what hasn’t.

With that in mind, this month, I’ll discuss simple steps to improve every day by setting goals and sticking to them. But first, let me explain why we need them!

Goals give us a sense of purpose. Without goals, we feel lost, indecisive, and often unhappy. We may also feel directionless, unmotivated, and stuck in a cycle of routine without purpose.

Many of us lead incredibly busy lives and become too preoccupied to focus on what truly matters. Concentrating on the goals that shape our dreams can be challenging, but it is essential to prioritise them. Doing so isn’t selfish; everyone around you benefits when you achieve your aspirations.

Additionally, some people lack motivation and spend excessive time on platforms like Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, or Facebook instead. Although they may have good intentions, they often put off their goals for another day and another!

Now, you’re beginning to see why so few people truly live their best lives. And it gets even more difficult because if we ever get around to setting our goals, we rarely stick to them. So here’s the best bit: I’ll share some very simple tips on how to make goals work for you.

Before I do, I want to recognise those going through an incredibly difficult time. Setting goals might be beneficial for you as well. Goals can help keep your thoughts focused instead of drifting into worst-case scenarios. They also allow you to channel your energy and inspire hope, essential for overcoming the despair you may be feeling; remember, it won’t last forever.

So, let’s start by thinking about our aspirations. Jamie and I had some big goals. Earlier in our life they revolved around family, career progression and saving as much as we could for our future. When we set up our own business, we had a financial and business plan, but we didn’t lose sight of our longer-term goal to be as fit as possible and mortgage-free by the time we reached 60 and then see as much of the world as we can 😊

Your goals can vary widely dependent on where you are in your life. For instance, you might aim for financial stability and create a longer-term plan to reduce debt. Alternatively, your focus could be on personal growth and development, practising mindfulness, or even exploring a new hobby.

Now that you’ve thought it over and made your choices, you’re ready for the important part. I try to keep things as simple as possible for those like me who have a short attention span. It couldn’t be easier than this, but YOU STILL HAVE TO DO IT!

Write them down. Carefully. … If you don’t, you won’t achieve them!
Tell someone. Telling someone you know about your goals increases the likelihood that you’ll stick to them.
Break your goals down. This is especially important for big goals. …
Plan your first step. …
Keep going. Every day will get better as you take pride in your progress.
Don’t give up; treat life’s obstacles like a game of dodgeball: duck, weave, and continue moving forward.
Celebrate even the small steps

“Setting goals is like telling your future self, ‘Hey, let’s make sure we don’t disappoint each other this time.’ Whether your goal is to get fit and run a 5K or to stop losing socks in the washing machine, it’s important to start small, dream big, and maybe keep a snack handy for those moments when you need a little motivation to keep going.”

Finally, a big thank you for sticking around. Share this with your friends if you liked it or your enemies if you didn’t; they deserve the confusion 😊

Until next time xx

South Africa: Leopard Mountain Safari Experience

As regular readers know, I write about living the best life possible despite the challenges and struggles that come our way. I find my greatest happiness in connecting with nature—one of the reasons we chose to move to Cornwall and why we regularly hike in the mountains. Research indicates that people who choose this connection to nature are generally happier. Nature evokes calmness and creativity while enhancing our ability to concentrate, an aspect often disrupted by today’s fast-paced lifestyle. With that in mind, I’m going to share a recent experience which I can truly say has been the best (so far 😊)

Thanks to our friends in South Africa, we achieved our dream. We booked a stay at Leopard Mountain Lodge in the stunning Manyoni Private Game Reserve. As one of the largest privately owned reserves, Manyoni is in the heart of Zululand and is a protected area for the “Big Five.” The reserve was formed when landowners removed internal fences to create a sprawling 23,000-hectare area with conservation as a top priority. It’s also a haven for endangered species like the cheetah and black rhino.

We planned a three-night stay, arriving shortly after lunch on day 1, and I was genuinely captivated by the stunning bush views from the large balcony, where we were served a welcome drink. Our room offered a perfect retreat, exuding calmness and privacy, complete with a hammock on the veranda and the delightful sounds of birdsong and cicadas bustling about. To my joy, wildlife thrived all around us, nibbling through the underbrush and nearby trees. We soon discovered that our balcony’s freshwater plunge pool was a favourite spot for the impalas and nyalas, blissfully ignoring our presence. Leopard Mountain felt like a hidden paradise!

Our first game drive was scheduled for 4 PM. Each day includes six hours of drives, from 5 AM to 8 AM and from 4 PM to 7 PM. Times vary according to sunrise/sunset, and I couldn’t wait to begin our journey through Africa’s untamed wilderness. We met our guide, Alex, and climbed aboard a fully open jeep, which was more comfortable than I had anticipated. Our first sight was a herd of striped zebra grazing in a savannah valley and a towering giraffe craning its neck to nibble on the tree.

Spending this time with our friends was fantastic; we all shared a love for off-roading, and Alex quickly realised we were up for any challenge. The reserve had experienced unprecedented rain the week before, making the tracks difficult to navigate, especially off the main routes. However, nothing was too difficult for Alex, and within the first hour, he made our visit truly special. He spotted two lionesses resting in the tall grass ahead. At first glance, they appeared gentle and serene as they lounged around, but then one of them approached us. She stood before the jeep, talking to us with deep, guttural growls. We could hear the other lioness behind the trees crunching the bones of her recent kill.

Being with Alex was amazing. With eight years of experience at the lodge, his deep knowledge of the reserve and the wildlife truly shone through. He shared fascinating insights in an engaging manner, and no question was too difficult. Before returning for dinner, we stopped in the bush, where Alex produced cold wine and beer. I was very impressed that the bush had “wine o’clock,” too. We stood there, enjoying the sunset, soaking in the nocturnal ambience while chatting about what we had seen.

Dinner was served in the boma, illuminated by lanterns and a roaring campfire. The food was incredible, and it was great to meet other guests from around the world and share our game drive experiences. After dinner, we were escorted back to our room, which is standard practice after dark, as you never know who might show up for an evening snack! Our first night sleeping in the bush was quite an experience. A mix of strange, wonderful, and somewhat scary noises echoed around us, yet I felt completely calm until the 4 AM alarm! This set the stage for an unforgettable morning.

Poaching remains a significant issue for wildlife reserves, particularly rhinos, now classified as endangered. For centuries, rhino horn has been used in traditional Chinese medicine, leading to the killing of these splendid animals for supposed “cures.” Reserves like the Manyoni have had to make difficult decisions to protect them, which means trimming their horns to save their lives. Our timing to visit Leopard Mountain coincided with the vet’s visit; what we witnessed will live with me forever.

We set off at 5 AM for an exhilarating 45-minute drive across the reserve. As we cruised in our open-top jeep, the sun gradually rose, painting the sky with breathtaking colours and illuminating the Savannah ahead. Upon our arrival, the helicopter landed with the vet on board. Manyoni has trackers on their rhinos to help locate them once the helicopter is airborne. We followed in the jeep, and no time was wasted getting to the area where the helicopter was circling, with the vet hanging out the side, ready to tranquillise his target.

Watching this huge, magnificent animal fall to the ground as the tranquiliser took effect was so emotional. The helicopter landed, and once the vet had given his OK, we approached the sedated rhino. The trim consisted of removing part of the horn from the rhino without damaging the growth plate or causing any harm or pain. When poachers remove the horn, they cut the entire las phalanx, which results in the animal bleeding to death. The vet did an amazing job, and the best part of the morning was watching the rhino wake, shake himself off and wander off to find his mates back in the bush.

I will never forget being so close to this wonderful animal, but understanding what the reserves must go through to protect their wildlife was bittersweet.

The remaining morning drives were equally as good as the evening ones. During our stay, we spotted an incredible variety of birds, insects, and animals (including the big 5) —way too many to list here, but I’d be happy to share details if you send me a message. Following the morning game drives, breakfast was superb. We then had the whole day free until the next adventure at 4. While our friends enjoyed relaxing spa treatments, Jamie and I chose to hang out with the wonderful wildlife visiting our pool and I chatted away like a modern version of Dr Doolittle.

The finale came on our last evening drive. The elephants had been elusive, and due to the rain, the road we needed to take to find them was impassable, even for Alex’s expert off-roading skills. However, that evening, while we sat watching a female cheetah with her two cubs, Alex had a call through on his radio to say the elephants had made their way to our side of the reserve and were about 20 minutes away. We sped along with no time to stop for giraffes, zebras, cheetahs, or lions. Our destination was to see the elephants, hoping they were still around. Along the way, we encountered four rhinos blocking the road. One became a bit stroppy when we tried to pass, so we had to wait patiently for them to move at their own pace.

Once we were on the move again, we crested a hill and were greeted by the sight of a herd of 27 elephants walking towards us. What struck me most was the peace they exuded. I couldn’t believe such large animals could convey a sense of serenity. Watching them walk towards us while looking out for one another was truly magical.

I didn’t want to leave Leopard Mountain; I felt strongly connected to nature and wildlife. It gave me a sense of total peace, which is rarely found in today’s hectic life.

A safari is not just a journey; it’s an awakening of our senses. You can’t beat starry nights and “jeep hair”. You know you’re truly alive when you’re living among lions 😊

Until next time xx

The Rugged Mountains of Alicante

What an incredible week it has been! I hope this blog captures the essence of our hiking adventure and shares all the wonderful moments we experienced. Additionally, I aim to provide useful information for anyone seeking an alternative way to destress and free their mind from constant worries. Stay tuned for the journey!

We ventured into the region’s hidden mountains, just an hour’s drive from Alicante Airport. This area feels like a different world, with terraced slopes adorned by charming small villages that ascend toward rugged limestone peaks rising over a thousand meters into the sky.

This was our fourth hiking holiday, and it did not disappoint. Armed with our maps and GPS, we arrived at our first destination, Tàrbena, just in time for a late afternoon beer. Juan, the owner of this super guest house, greeted us and showed us our room, which had fantastic views of the village, the mountains, and the Mediterranean Sea in the distance. He was one of the most welcoming people we have ever met!

The village is surrounded by almond groves, creating a serene and authentic Spanish atmosphere. One of the aspects I cherish most about these getaways is immersing myself in the local culture and life in the mountains. Juan mentioned that the food we would be served was prepared using locally sourced ingredients and was delicious! Many of Juan’s dishes included foods Jamie and I had never tried, such as artichokes.

The next morning would be our first walk, and there’s nothing like an early start! Juan explained that a wild Boar hunt was due to commence at 11 am, and we needed to be through the first 10K before it started. With our picnic lunch safely packed in our rucksacks, I was keen to get past the hunting area as I didn’t want dinner eating my lunch. Nor did I want to be mistaken for a wild Boar 😊

Apart from dodging the world’s best cyclists training in the area, complete with their tour cars, we made it through the day without any drama. This wonderful first day’s hike set the tone for the rest of our holiday. We explored a variety of landscapes, including moorland, pinewoods, and orchards filled with oranges, lemons, almonds, and olives. The scenery was impressive, with huge limestone rocks rising dramatically to form sheer cliffs and deep valleys. Pine trees, shrubs, and early wildflowers clung to the rocky terrain.

After two wonderful days, we moved on to our next location. A long, tough walk took us to the village of Castell de Castells, where we would stay for three nights in a beautifully restored nineteenth-century townhouse. This property had been in the same family for over 100 years. The winding, narrow, and steep streets created a wonderfully peaceful atmosphere. The only interruptions to the tranquillity were the church bells ringing every hour and every half hour!

Pilar, the owner, prepared the most delicious homemade evening meals, which we enjoyed in the intimate, softly lit vaulted cellar. We savoured local wine and engaged in wonderful conversations as we met other walkers on the same schedule. Before dinner, we watched the sun go down on the roof terrace with an ice-cold beer, feeling happy and relaxed.

I’d now like to take a moment to explain why we felt so good and why hiking is helpful for mental well-being. After completing a tough walk, your body releases endorphins. When you combine this with nature, sunlight, and breathtaking scenery, your brain experiences a significant boost. Much research suggests that this activity can create a flow state of mind.

In a flow state, distractions diminish, and time appears to pass unnoticed, which makes it incredibly beneficial. Research has shown that flow is associated with decreased activity in brain areas linked to self-focus. This connection helps explain why experiencing flow can divert us from stress and worry, and I can personally vouch for its effectiveness. Other activities, such as sports, can have the same positive effect.

Back on track (excuse the pun), on our third transfer day to our last destination, we had two choices: the long walk or a shortened version involving a taxi ride. We opted for the long route, and we weren’t disappointed. Again, we were in awe of the scenery and a spa bath looking out onto the terrain we had just walked was a welcome luxury on our arrival.

Jamie and I laughed through dinner, interested in the menu options. We decided to start with pasta, which arrived looking like a five-course meal and also included three doughnuts each. Naturally, we chose the wild “bear” dish for our main course, which, as it turned out, was wild boar 😊. We had an unusual combination of bread, chocolate, oil, and salt for dessert. You might think this pairing sounds odd, as we did, but it tasted amazing. And if you’re horrified by our choices, vegetarian options were available.

Before I leave, I need to talk about our last hike. This trail covers all three surrounding gorges, including the famous Barrac de L’Infern (Hell’s Ravine). It’s a challenging route that requires a decent fitness level to complete. After the first steep descent and halfway up the ascent out of the first gorge, I seriously questioned my motivation, but it did improve. We encountered two Spanish guys at the foot of the third gorge before the final ascent. I was surprised that their rest stops included a couple of cigarettes, especially considering their climbing speed! This hike, often called the “Cathedral of Hiking,” was truly memorable.

For a week, life for us felt like a mountain rather than a beach but passing by the beach on the way back to the airport looked very appealing.

I headed home, feeling a sense of post-hike blues. My mind was no longer in flow, and this emotion seemed counterintuitive after a long hike; shouldn’t I feel revitalised instead of worn out? The truth is that, like hormonal shifts, my body needs time to adjust to being back home. The “Eat, Sleep, Hike, Repeat” routine had put us into the flow, which was fantastic during the hike, but transitioning back felt sad; I wanted to be back in the mountains exploring wonderful landscapes.

You’ll be pleased to know I’m fine now and raring to go! But where to? With my new self-appointed job as a travel writer I could end up anywhere!

Until next time xxxx

One powerful tip for a better 2025

First, let me say Happy New Year, and good luck sticking to your New Year’s resolution. Last year, I decided to teach my facial expressions how to express their inner voice. It has worked somewhat, but I can’t get rid of the eye roll, so that’s my focus for this year.

Before you make your resolution, I want to share the most valuable advice I’ve ever received. Someone once told me it was the best tip I would ever get, and I can confidently say they were right. If you take this advice, you’ll feel happier, less anxious, and more in control; imagine that!

So, what is it, I hear you ask? Let me explain.

We all have a worst enemy, and you might be surprised to learn that it’s not the “know it all” mother in your school WhatsApp group or the workplace bully. It’s something far worse, a constant nagging commentary that lingers in your head 24/7—our inner voice. Sometimes, it offers a helpful idea, but more often than not, it’s negative. When it finally goes quiet, we worry about what it’s plotting next, and hey presto, it’s back!

This inner voice reminds you that the crisis you’re experiencing will lead to the worst possible outcome, almost like a detailed itinerary of all the negative possibilities. This gremlin also surfaces as you fall asleep, casting doubt over everything you’ve accomplished during the day. Additionally, it seems to criticise your outfit just before you go out. For me, it often appears when I’m writing my blogs, making me feel like I’m wasting my time since no one will read them. 😊

Vincent Van Gogh got it right when he said, “If you hear a voice in your head saying you can’t paint, then paint, and that voice will be silenced.” Vincent echoed the advice I received but I’ll try to add some detail and helpful takeaways.

So, how do we silence the pesky thing?

Let’s begin by giving it a name. Naming helps us acknowledge its presence and allows us to observe when and how it appears. Fun options like “Nagging Nelly” or “Perfect Pete” come to mind, but they feel too long for me. Instead, short names like “Midge” or “HIC” (Hidden Inner Critic) or something playful that makes you smile might be easier to relate to.

Next, we need to learn techniques to eliminate it. We can’t live our best lives with a gremlin who continually sabotages our success in both our professional and personal lives, disrupts our sleep, and makes us unnecessarily anxious.

Perhaps you didn’t apply for that job because you couldn’t meet two of the ten required competencies. Maybe you didn’t ask for a pay raise this year because you didn’t feel it was justified. After all, the gremlin might reason that if you deserved a pay raise, your employer would have given you one. Perhaps your day is full of worry instead of laughter because you always think about a worst-case scenario planted in your head by our nemesis.

However, now that you have a name, you’re more aware of its presence, and you have the power to tell it to “bugger off”. I might use “different words” in a more private setting, but they wouldn’t be appropriate for my blog 😊. This approach may help you block it out temporarily, but here’s what you must do if it returns. This advice I’ve followed works: don’t worry about how silly you might look or sound; just crack on.

When you wake up in the morning and take a look at yourself in the bathroom mirror, the first words out of your mouth should always be, “Gremlin (replace with chosen name) is an a**hole”, and repeat it 3 times. Trust me; it will banish that irritating inner voice for the day and equally put a smile on your face.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying you should ignore your intuition or gut feeling; ignore the Gremlin. It will be mightily peeved, but stay strong, and you’ll beat it.

Moving on, my focus for 2005 is recognising that health involves much more than exercise and proper nutrition. It encompasses having a healthy mindset, surrounding ourselves with positive people, cultivating uplifting habits, and embracing gratitude.

Remember, there are two rules in life.

Never share all the information

On that note, Alexa, I’d be very grateful if you could take down the Christmas decorations.

Until next time xx

Unlocking the power of Emotional Intelligence can transform your life—do you possess this vital skill?

Hi everyone, it’s me again. I appreciate that this is my second blog in a month, but after researching, I’ve realised I need to challenge my brain more. Now that I’m retired, I’ve noticed that at least 80% of my day revolves around active pursuits like yoga, gym, hiking, and photography—I’m rarely still. I also enjoy reading and love writing, so I’ve decided to focus on those activities more. I bet you can’t wait to read more of my thoughts! My last blog about St. Agnes garnered the highest readership this year, so here we go again!

When I wrote about this topic last year, it was my most popular post in the four years I’ve been blogging. Today, I want to take a different approach to the same subject: Emotional Intelligence, or EQ. I hope you find some valuable takeaways from it, as, apparently, it’s the key to happiness.

First, let’s clarify what Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is: it refers to our ability to manage our own emotions while also understanding the feelings of others. EQ consists of four key elements: self-awareness, self-regulation, social awareness, and social skills. I’ll explain these components further later in this blog.

On a personal note, I don’t wish to blow my own trumpet, but remarkably, I have a high EQ score. I only mention this to establish my credibility in this area. Thankfully, this is a positive trait, especially since I suspect my IQ score is rather average. 😊

How do I know this? Without going into too much detail, I was tested in my last proper job, a relatively senior role. As part of the management team, we needed to recognise our strengths and weaknesses to communicate effectively and lead our team to the best of our ability, ultimately resulting in a happier workforce. Therefore, we all underwent a full analysis day, followed by an official emotional intelligence (EQ) test.

Let me share an example. I personally dislike excessive detail, but some people thrive on it, and that’s simply how they communicate. Having a high emotional intelligence (EQ) means that instead of looking bored, I can recognise that my impatience isn’t a good trait. Even though I understand what they are saying within the first few seconds, I remain attentive for the next 5 minutes and don’t lose my sh*t. That’s being self-aware.

Some of our management team members had low emotional intelligence (EQ) scores. This didn’t make them better or worse than me; it simply highlighted our differences. I worked alongside incredibly intelligent people—many of whom were much smarter than I am—and I often wondered how I ended up in my position. I can only guess that my high EQ enabled me to navigate through all the difficult times.

So, let’s look at what’s possible and what you can take away from reading my blog.

Firstly, can you increase your IQ, or are you born smart? Sorry, folks, but experts generally agree there’s no effective method to boost intelligence directly. Factors like diet, brain training, exercise, willpower, or inspiration do not significantly affect IQ. However, some researchers have found that a rigorous academic curriculum can improve IQ scores, but only slightly.

But all is not lost. While we may not be able to boost our intelligence significantly, we can elevate our emotional intelligence (EQ) at any stage in life. The exciting part is that the skills associated with EQ can be learned and refined! It’s vital to understand that grasping EQ concepts is just the start; putting them into practice is where the real transformation happens. Even if emotional intelligence doesn’t come effortlessly, with dedication, mastering these invaluable skills is entirely achievable!

So, what are the traits of people with high EQs?

Number one is Self-awareness. It’s an incredible skill that allows us to recognise and understand our emotions and how they affect those around us. It’s the foundation of emotional intelligence (EQ) and supports all other aspects of it.

When we develop self-awareness, we unlock the power of self-regulation—the ability to manage our emotions and behaviors effectively. This journey starts with recognizing our feelings, which helps us maintain control during challenging situations. Individuals with strong self-regulation can pause and take a deep breath in tense moments instead of losing their temper, throwing objects, and slamming the door on their way out. I know! this is difficult!

Next is social awareness. Those who score highly in this area can empathise with others and grasp their emotions, fostering stronger connections.

Finally, social skills are the hallmark of a greatness. These skills encompass influencing others, managing conflicts, and inspiring those around us. Mastering these abilities is essential for nurturing and sustaining healthy relationships in all areas of life, not just at work.

Imagine this scenario: you’ve had a stressful day at work, it’s nearly Christmas, and you still haven’t done any shopping. To make matters worse, Sainsbury’s delivered six bottles of wine instead of your entire Christmas order because you mistakenly left them in your holding basket. On top of that, the kids have just finished school for the holidays! Those of us with high EQ can stop ourselves from poking our own eyes out, screaming, or drowning our sorrows in wine. But it does take practice😊

On that note, with my self-awareness skills fully engaged, I will say goodbye before I bore you to death. If you managed to read to the end, well done! If you gave up halfway through, you missed the best part.

Ho Ho Ho and a bottle of Merlot, until next time xx

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